A Note From The Author
For those of you who know me, you know my passion is in empowering others to overcome, to succeed, to see the best in themselves and to reach the highest levels in whatever they choose to undertake. I have been on a journey of my own for 57 years now and have made the decision to continue on the path that empowers me...empowering others. In writing my own Memoir, I am making myself vulnerable to criticism and to judgement, but I feel that helping others outweighs my own ego. I hope by reading it, that it helps those who have suffered at the hands of others to realize that they, too, can overcome. The book was not written to hurt anyone. It is about MY truth, MY experience, MY life and MY struggles. It is also about the small victories I have had during my healing journey. My hope is that whoever chooses to read it will gain strength from it and realize that abuse can happen to anyone. They are not alone and did not deserve it or cause it. Mostly, I want people to know...that it is NOT your fault. I am proud to say that I am a survivor. Some days it is still one breath at a time, but I am breathing still. The book is called "Our Time" and is available on Amazon. Please share it with anyone who is hurting. It does have adult content in it, so beware. My wish is to have a positive impact on those who have been abused and to empower the survivors to stop the cycle that continues. We must step out of the circle and say "no more".
Tammy was born in West Covina, California in 1960, grew up in Wichita, Kansas. When she was a little girl she always felt like her purpose was to try to make a positive difference in other's lives. Music played a big part in her life as well as martial arts. In later years, she discovered that those were two things that saved her life...music and movement. Taekwondo gave her a positive outlet for her rage and pain. Music gave her a voice she was too fearful to use otherwise.
Tammy was a 5th degree black belt in Taekwondo Choi kwang do and owned a Martial Arts Academy for over 14 year. She was a US Team Alternate in Taekwondo for 4 years, a National, International, US Olympic Festival medalist several times. Ironically, her father was the one who encouraged her to get into martial arts. He knew that she would learn how to defend herself from others, but because of fear and the trauma bond he had built between them, he also knew that she would not have the power to protect herself from him.
She kept her secret of abuse inside her for over 43 years. No one knew what was happening to her.
After escaping abuse, the healing power of music came full circle. She started writing her own music. The first song she wrote was on a rainy night. Thunder and lightening were all around her. Her faithful companion, Peasers, was beside her as she sat on the bed. She remembers contemplating suicide at that moment as tears were rolling down her face, but instead of going through with it, she picked up her guitar and started writing the song "A New Beginning" and the rest is history.
Now she is an established voice on the music scene with the release of her debut CD "Free". She continues to produce new music and was awarded "One To Watch" for her songs "My Son" and "Until Then" in 2016 for her songwriting. Inspired by her own life experience, she employs acoustic guitar to create simple, heartfelt tunes that engage her listeners to sing along. Her unique sound is an easy listen and has been described as "contemporary folk" filled with emotion.
Tammy started writing her book after she escaped but put it aside. It was too much to handle, too raw. After going to see Therapist, Joan Childs in Florida who after hearing her story told her that her story was a 10 on the scale of horrific, Joan encouraged her to share her story to help others. Upon her return home, Tammy rewrote her story and self-published it in August 2018.
She has been overwhelmed by the feedback and how many people have told her that because of her book they have now found the strength to use their voice, thereby freeing themselves from their personal prison.
Her journey since 2004 has had it's ups and downs, but she continues to find hope in every day. She takes it a breath at a time on some days, but is always grateful for the gifts the universe has given her.
Tammy has been interviewed on Nationally syndicated radio shows such as The Neil Haley Show, Biz Talk Radio along with other stations around the country WOCA-AM, WESB-AM, WYRQ-FM, KCHE-AM/FM, WKNY-AM, KMA-AM/FM, KORE-AM, WBTN-AM. She has had many book signings in Texas and Kansas and hopes to continue to spread hope to those who are suffering or have suffered.